Like many of us, Adele has spent the past 18 months reflecting. But even before the COVID-19 pandemic began, the singer faced a year of anxiety. Since then, she has spent a lot of time working on therapy and growing to understand herself. One of the topics she worked on was her relationship with men, starting from her relationship with her father, to her divorce from Simon Konecki, to how she relates to her son, Angelo. Here’s something he learned.
Adele’s divorce from Simon Koneckic
In his recent interview with the trend, Adele said that her divorce went as smoothly as a divorce. Konecki also lives across the street (in the house he bought) and the two share custody of their son. The family still has frequent movie nights.
Adele opened up to the publication about her reasons for divorcing Konecki.
“I was just going through the motions and I wasn’t happy,” she said. “None of us did anything wrong. We didn’t hurt each other and neither did anything like that. It was simply: I want my son to really love me, and be loved. This is really important to me. I have been on my journey to find my true happiness ever since.”
facing his issues with his father
Adele’s journey to happiness included going for treatment.
“My therapist told me I had to sit with my seven-year-old,” she shared. “Because she was left on her own. And I needed to sit down with her and really address how I felt when I was growing up. And the issues with my dad. That I was avoiding.”
Adele’s father, Mark Evans, and her mother, Penny Adkins, separated just after Adele’s birth. So Adkins had to raise her daughter on her own. When Adele became famous, Evans sold a story about her Sunday. He died of cancer in May this year.
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“I know he loved me, and we really found peace before he died,” she said of her father. “When he passed, I had such a physical reaction. That fear left my body.”
In therapy, the singer confronted her feelings about her relationship with her father.
“It’s not sure if someone who’s supposed to love you loves you, and doesn’t prioritize you in any capacity when you’re younger,” she said about her and her therapist. He said about “You take it for granted and get used to it. So my relationship with men in general, my whole life has always been: You’re going to hurt me, so I’ll hurt you first. It’s just toxic and prevents me from really finding any happiness.”
Adele has also realized her toxic relationship with men in her relationship with her son
The singer’s issues with men were deep. She also felt them bubble when her son spoke to her in a certain way.
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“Sometimes, with my own son, he could talk to me a certain way, and I fell silent,” she said. “with me Own f*cking baby. I’ll take it to heart, what he’s saying, when exactly what he’s saying, No, I don’t want to go to bed.”
Thankfully, now, Adele is improving in many areas of her life, not just her relationships with men. How did he do this? “It was a lot of sound baths. It was a lot of meditation. That was a very of medicine. And spent a lot of time on myself.”